What I wish for my marriage...

Intangible - the ‘what’

• To be respected
• To always have a safe forum in which to share any and all emotions, experiences, and thoughts
• The knowledge that I have the support of my husband in all aspects
• To be and to have an equal and contributing partner in the marriage
• The knowledge that myself and our children are the most important thing, people, priority, in my husband’s life
• To feel cherished
• To have a home that represents and expresses myself as much as my husband

Tangible - the ‘how’

• A kiss and a cuddle first thing, every day, when the last person home arrives
• A kiss goodbye when leaving the house for the day
• A kiss goodnight when going to bed
  
• Regular acknowledgement and appreciation for things that have been done - i.e., dishes, cleaning, ‘normal’ daily tasks that contribute to the good of the household
• Some time every day to catch up as a couple with no other distractions. This can be dinner together over the table (without TV, books, magazines, etc) or otherwise arranged.
• A weekly date - just the two of us, together, focusing on enjoying time together, even after Baby arrives. Preferably the same time most weeks.
• A husband who spends the majority of his sleeping hours at night in bed with me.
• To be included in my husband’s life - his joys, his sorrows, his worries and his frustrations. To be the first one consulted on major decisions as a matter of course.
• Occasional accompaniment on outings - be it to the movies, the mall, the grocery store, etc, simply for the job of being together
• To be free from critiscm over those things that didn't get done that day
• To be given help willingly when I need / ask for it